2017.. I don’t even know where to begin, it seems like time just flew by so quickly and here we are it’s 2018. I started the year feeling hopeless and had no idea what I’m doing with my life. I wasn’t as forthcoming with my ambitions. I started being more active on my blog while I await processing my papers to get my residency in Canada. It was exhausting and I was homesick plus I miss my family in England whom I haven’t seen since 2013. This is the year that I asked for things that I thought was impossible to achieve, nor would never in my wildest dream be able to do. I have learned to depend on myself this year and overcome the depression that comes from moving from one country to another country. It was the best year yet I’ve ever had in my life where my dreams are starting to come true. I am sharing with you the things I have learned each month, so here are they:
Believe in Yourself – January in Canada is the coldest month and where people are most depressed. I have learned to break free from this feeling and started working towards my goals for the year. I knew I wanted to start blogging and achieve great heights of success. I realized that whatever we put our mind into we can achieve it and nothing is impossible as long as you believe in yourself. If you don’t believe in your own self then you’ll always downgrade yourself. We are our biggest critic which shouldn’t be the way. We should be our own cheerleader and be more kind to yourself.
Never (EVER) compare yourself to others – Okay, this is most likely the problem now for the millennial generation or if you’re into Instagram and the world of the perfectly curated lifestyle of bloggers/influencer/celebrity and the Kardashians. We often compare our life based on someone else’s photo that we see smiling in the photo they posted. We don’t really know whats behind in every photo they posted. They too have experienced hardship in life and going thru the same thing as you are. I started unfollowing people who makes me feel bad about myself. I only follow or look into people’s profile online if they inspire me to be a better person. When I started doing this, my life has become increasingly happy and content. I also started feeling hungry for the achievement they have obtained. Hence moving to March…
Follow your dreams – Dreaming is good, but putting action to your dreams is probably the next best thing to do. So that’s what I did. I started planning my first solo trip to Asia with an assistant. A lot of people told me it’s impossible and they doubted my plans. I wrote everything I wanted in my notebook and it came true. It came true because I worked hard towards it. The feeling of following your dreams is so unbelievable and once achieved it feels like Nirvana.
Be Patient– April really tested out my patience about life. I started preparing the documents for my residency with my lawyer since November of 2016 and it seems like things aren’t going my way. I have learned to let go of the stress and trust the process. I was also being so impatient with so many things that it affects me mentally and emotionally. The best thing to do is have faith or distract yourself when you’re starting to be impatient with things.
Get out of your comfort zone– As a kid, we seemed to be more fearless and from time to time we get hurt from this experiences so we limit ourselves to our comfort zone. May was definitely about getting out of my comfort zone. I had to travel to Asia alone. I always get scared when flying from one airport to another. I am terrified of immigration, securities and customs in the airport. They are pretty intimidating and seem very strict. Is this just me or anyone else feels like this? I should probably stop watching border security. lol but really, life shows you amazing things you never thought will make you happy if you don’t get out of your comfort zone.
Things will never work out the way you want them to be – My laptop broke and some of the shots I did was in it. I pretty much lost all my files from my trip to Asia (I was able to retrieve it later on) I was also let down from some of the people/ projects I had high hopes for like working with the Tourism Board of the Philippines. I was mad – it’s okay to be mad but don’t let it ruin your day or your mood about other things. You can be mad, upset or sad about it for few hours but always have a positive attitude about it. Things will get better I promise.
Things happen when you work hard– So when thing’s don’t work out your way, you’re left with one thing but that drive to work hard, and when people don’t believe you, use this motivation to prove them wrong and when you do the outcome is unbelievable. It’s so rewarding too when you know you did it all by yourself, the boost of self-confidence is high.
Making failures is part of being a better person – I think this is the month where I did all sort of failures, I also didn’t get to blog about my trip to Asia(which will be live this January) due to the situation I was on, I got super busy doing other things. I even stopped blogging for more than a month. I have failed to focus on blogging and everything seems wrong. I have cried so many times doubting myself. I realized it was okay to give yourself a break from time to time. Failures too make you stronger because next time a situation like this happens you are smarter and equipped to avoid failing.
Health is Wealth – This was the month that I decided to get back to being a vegetarian ( I was a vegan before for 5 years). I never really liked the taste of meat. I have never eaten a pork. I’m not telling you to be a vegetarian but do what you feel best about your body. I have learned to listen to my body. Over the years after quitting modelling (2015) I have gained over 35 lbs and to be completely honest I am not happy, I feel so insecure and sad all the time. So I wanted to change my lifestyle. I also wanted to get back into fitness on 2018 making it in my top 5 priority.
Let go of the people who don’t help you grow– I have a lot of so called friends who doubted me, treated me wrong or simply don’t appreciate my existence, some people will use you too. It’s okay to be used but it has to be 2 ways and not blindsided, we all use each other but in a way we both benefit from it, that’s just human nature. But, if these people are making you feel like crap or simply always contradicting your greatness then it’s time to say goodbye to them.
Self Care is a Must – From time to time we get caught up in this fast life we’re living right now that we take ourselves for granted. We let go.. we stop taking care of our skin, taking care of our body, we stopped nourishing it. We stopped spending time alone in our own thoughts. Social Media detox is so amazing, grab your favourite book and don’t forget to breathe and enjoy your surrounding and have some time to be thankful to be alive.
You Can’t Please Everyone – Going back to letting go of the people who don’t benefit you anymore, the next step is letting your conscience have a rest from always trying to please everyone. You have to be yourself and not be dictated by what everyone is telling you, if you don’t like something then don’t do it. Always looking for that approval from other people? Why not start focusing on the approval from yourself. Once I have let go of this norm in my head I have felt so much more at ease when surrounded by people. You can’t control what they say or think of you, that’s their opinion. What you can control is to ignore them and focus on being your awesome self.
Now that we tackle all the life lessons for 2017, I am so ready for an amazing 2018 coming my way, I feel more confident that this year will be better than the last. I am also looking forward to new life lessons. I kinda wanted to keep my goals for 2018 for myself right now as I wouldn’t want to jinx it. haha if you know what I mean. I’ll probably show a glance half way thru the year
PS: I’m leaving for another trip in 5 days and I am terrified, I will be away for 5 weeks from home and to my cute little pup but I am excited about the content were about to make. Stay tuned!